Friends who never use THEIR time and resources to visit us but still ask us to our time/spend money on them and their life choices are really starting to make me furious.
I got an email from an old friend who is very busy with her FOURTH pregnancy. Apparently, even with three toddlers at the house and lots of family and friends around to swap stuff with, they still "are missing a lot of things that are needed." so I get a mass email basically telling us all to go buy shit from the registry. Don't mind getting presents or helping out, but how many are you going to have and what's with the "demand" tone of the registry email? Why doesn't all the baby stuff you already have (from the baby you had LAST YEAR, let alone the previous two) still work for this one? Is there any sort of etiquette anymore regarding weddings, wedding parties or baby showers, or is it just one big ol' presumptuous, self-absorbed shove at your friends and family to buy you crap no matter the circumstance or your attitude? Does it matter anymore if it's your 12th wedding or 12th kid, or still married to someone else until three months before the new wedding/baby or whatever? Perhaps not. You still need us to help foot the bill for your damned ego, because it always has champaigne tastes on a tap water budget. And you've already tapped your parents out with frivilous, expensive demands and you've already maxed out on your own debt. We owe it to you as friends, really. But you never have to do a thing for us. We like being used and then forgotten about after your big party.
Until you start using YOUR time and money to visit us once in a decade or at least say THANK YOU once in a while after we show up and hand over any of our household resources to your prideful cause, no more funding and present requests... darned takers. Funny how they're always "too poor" to do anything... until they really want something for themselves. Then the money magically materializes for whatever vacation, ect. and we are just expected to show up at their doorstep again as usual on our dime.
I'm going to probably go spend my money on the cruise instead of buying people who never call or visit more junk that they won't even use after a year or two. Because I'm feeling mean like that. God help the next out of state friend who says "So when are you coming back to visit?", because I am eventually going to go postal on them. And that would be sad.
OK. Now off to lunch. I feel so much better now that I got that out. Now I can go be social with people again.